Unless you are living under a rock and don't know a single person on the planet, you will experience some sort of painful loss at some point, overcoming a relationship break up is one of those painful loses. Sometimes the pain is so intense and the heartbreak is so terrible that it can seem like you will never laugh or love again when you are in the middle of a breakup. Just remember, that no matter how impossible it seems at this moment, you will laugh and love again, as long as you allow yourself to do so.
The sad fact is that many of us don't know how to deal with the hurt and we shut down. Many people lock themselves in their house or apartment and don't emerge for months. They don't clean house, shop for groceries, shower, etc. This is not completely unusual behavior and it's not a problem as long as it's only temporary, but some people just don't snap out of it and they live the rest of their lives not trusting or loving anyone again... and that is a true shame.
When you deeply love someone it's impossible to believe that you could ever love anyone again, especially the first time you fall in love. But, as you grow older and have more experiences you'll learn that you can love many people throughout your lifetime and while no two relationships will be exactly the same, they can all be very fulfilling and you can feel deep love in each one.
When it comes to finding the best way to move through the heartache of a broken relationship it's best to remember that you have (or can have with some practice) complete control over your thoughts. You can teach yourself to stop wallowing in the pain and force yourself to think more positively about the future. When you learn to do this you will find that you will move on so much more quickly after a painful situation.
If this sounds dumb to you, think of it like this: if you cut yourself and a scab forms when does the cut hurt the most? When you are ignoring it and going about your daily life or when you are sitting looking at it and picking at the scab? Sure, it might be somewhat painful all the time but when you focus on it you are focusing on the pain and of course, if you pay attention to it you'll feel it more. Same concept with a broken relationship.
So, try mind over matter yourself next time you're overcoming a relationship break up. Don't dwell on the pain but focus on happy thoughts and you'll see that you can move on a little more quickly.
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